A lot of people warned us about how hard the first year of marriage would be on our relationship, but no one mentioned how hard the first year of parenting would be on our marriage.
Our first year of parenting was DEFINITELY harder than our first year of marriage.
In fact, our first year of marriage was easy. No, seriously, it was.
The first year of parenting, however, was everything but. Bringing a little person who screams, demands all your time, steals all your attention, and doesn’t let you get any sleep into your life can definitely make you lose that lovin’ feeling from time to time. Plus, we really, really, really miss our random date nights.
We didn’t realize how much we went on dates {dinners out and movies every week!} until Zavier came along and we couldn’t do it anymore. Sure, we still go on our little date day adventures to our favorite places in the city, but not as much, and not as freely.
Now, we have to make sure we plan it around Zavier’s naps and mealtimes and moods. And we’ve seen about three movies and had about one dinner date {just 4 nights out in the year!} since our little munchkin came along. That’s how many we used to have in about a week.
So on Zavier’s birthday, after a weekend of celebrating him, Galen and I decided to go and celebrate ourselves for surviving the year. So we asked my mom to babysit {we love when the grandmas come to visit!} and went out for ice cream and, of course, a movie. ;)
{Gotta love those 3-D glasses. We are such, such dorks.}
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And then we didn’t even see a movie in 3D. In fact, we saw a movie with no sound… kinda… but a whole lot of personality! (We saw The Artist, ^_^)
Lol. Yep. I’m glad we did.
{Though the 3-D glasses were fun!}
I agree… first year of marriage was easy…first year of parenting? Whew. I’m only 7 months in, but it’s definitely more difficult. Congrats to you and yours for surviving the first year. I wish you many more happy years to come!
Aww, same to you!
7 months was such a cute age! I miss it. :) Hope you guys are enjoying it!
True, the first year is crazy. Gradually though, most of the things may return that you both can have alone time (together) again with dinners, etc. Or, at least it won’t seem like work to bring an older child along :)
Great photos of you both! Take care!
Thanks, Scott!
I miss date nights, too! The first time we went out to see a movie after having our LO, I feel asleep! LOL Kudos to you both for celebrating your survival of the first year of parenting!
Awww, you fell asleep! Lol. I can’t blame you. Zav sleeps from 7:30-5:30, so much better than his newborn days of being up every hour, but I STILL feel like I get no sleep.
Here’s to us both getting more sleep – and more date nights with the hubbies! ;)
I can totally relate to this post! On our little guy’s first birthday, we felt like we had to celebrate, so hubby and I shared a cocktail after putting him to sleep! We toasted and breathed a collective sigh of relief. We are making a better effort to find time for us, but it’s still tough. Truer words have never been spoken – thank God for grandparents!!